It can take time! At the clinic, they say they'd move on to trying IVF if the first 4-5 inseminations don't take; with another clinic it was 6 tries; and on public they want you to "try" for 12 months before they refer you to a clinic. Of course we kind of can't "try" at home because we're looking at an anonymous donor. Also it turns out same-sex couples aren't covered by state insurance. So we haven't tried yet, but we're having tests done.